Welcome to Online Dating Genius: A blog series brought to you by the online dating experts at your favorite NYC Matchmaking Service, Project Soulmate! Each post we will reveal another online dating profile tip, a.k.a…the “please don’t” in online dating.
If you online date, you will relate.
Not Your A Game
How exactly does this chick help your dating profile succeed? Did you think that women will find you more attractive because you have a female friend / x-girlfriend that’s a 10? Oh, wait… is this your way of saying, “Those less hot than this chick need not apply?”
Whatever your reason, it does not work out in your favor. Most women rate online profiles of men with photos of other women as less appealing. They assume he is:
- hooked on his ex
- a player (especially when it’s a group of chicks)
- an “in the friend zone” type of guy
- undesirable to these women for a good reason
Your pic with the hot chick is pointless. Do you look that good in this pic? Just crop or blur everyone else out. In fact, data has shown that profiles with photos of other people get less engagement and more negative judgement than those using only solo pics.
Do What You Gotta Do
If you want women to find your profile more desireable, use a:
- photo where you’re looking away from the camera
- candid shot of you playing a sport or an instrument
- pic when you are dressed up but not posing, for example; speaking at an important event.
It’s that suit and tie or even just that in-command appearance that does it for women online. The idea that others are listening to you, viewing you as leader or even just a guy that can do something really well – is what makes women tick and then click.
Leave room by your side for her to imagine herself with you. Trying to get her attention via the use of another female is middle school level dating strategy, at best. Bottom line guys; you’re better off without her. Hence, hot chicks in your online dating profile pics are a do-not.
Written by Jane Rudes
Jane Rudes is a Communication Consultant as well as the Online Division Director at Project Soulmate. Jane is happy to speak with interested prospective online clients about their online profile and other common online dating woes.
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Find more brilliant advice by checking out our other Online Dating Genius posts like:
The Bathroom Selfie, The Height Exaggeration, The Pet Pics, The Offspring Pic, The Posse Pic, The Not Your Baby Pic and The Impossible Checklist
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