Are we moving in together or not moving in together? That is the question.
How can anyone know the right answer?
In general, moving in together takes a leap of faith. We get asked this one so often from our successful matches that we may need to create a manual for it. There is so much we want couples to know, we wish we had a whole department available to coach you through it. In the meantime, Lori Zaslow, co-founder of Project Soulmate was selected by Redfin as a top relationship expert and was featured in their recent article: Expert-Backed Advice for Couples Moving in Together: 14 Tips for a Smooth Transition | Redfin
The article is jam packed with great advice from relationship experts that all couples can benefit from, even those that have been living together for a long time! Below is a snapshot of the tips everyone should know before, during, and even after moving in with someone they love. Remember, the devil is in the details so check out the article and share with anyone who could use the advice.
Things every couple should work on if moving in together:
- Set ground rules
- Get vulnerable
- Communicate every detail
- Create personal space
- Be a team
- Have fun
- Write the nest-list
- Maintain balance
- Know your needs
- Set boundaries
- Be in touch with fantasy vs reality
- Set quality time
- Leave the past behind
- Expect obstacles
Assistant sociology professor at Washington University in St. Louis, Patrick Ishizuka whose research focuses on work, family, and social inequality tells Brides that moving in together is a good way to trial run a relationship before fully committing any further.
“Living together before marriage enables couples to vet one another’s compatibility before walking down the aisle and parting ways if they’re not a match. This reduces the chances of separation after.”
Has anyone told you that if you live together for a certain period of time you are considered legally married? Well, that is not necessarily true. There is a lot more to it than just moving in together for an extended period of time. However, depending on which state you live in, you might want to read up about it in greater detail. Here is a helpful article all about common law marriage on Brides.com
Whatever you decide to do, make sure you are not being hasty. It is such a fun and exciting time, we often do not want to kill the mood. However, being prudent now will pay off in the long run. After all, don’t we all want our love to last forever?
Speaking of love, if you know anyone struggling with dating or finding their soulmate, be sure to recommend giving us a call. If they are shy or hesitant, you can refer them to sign up for our free database here and we will reach out if they are a fit for any of our clients! If you know someone dating online, let them know we can help with that, too. Best of luck!
Written by Jane Rudes
Jane Rudes is a Communication Consultant as well as the Online Division Director at Project Soulmate. Jane is happy to speak with interested prospective online clients about their online profile and other common online dating woes.
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