Moblie Dating Apps

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Mobile dating services apps: (tindr, SCRUFF, grindr, etc..) Do they work or is it a recipe for disaster? How honest and trusting are these apps? Will they find you a committed relationship?

Nick: The apps in the gay community are used way more for hooking up and not for dates. I don’t know many people who have actually formed relationships through these apps. A lot of the time it is late at night, they send pictures and only want sex. Tinder is especially weird because it links with facebook so you can find out their interests and get to see more than one person. Grindr has a GPS where you can actually see how far away somebody is. I have had both, I prefer Tinder because I feel it is more legit. Grindr is a bunch of creepy people and fake profiles. People on Grindr will send you pictures without you even asking. On Tinder you can either like someone or dislike someone and they will not know unless they like you back, then it is a match. So it is a fair system and if anything just boosts your confidence.

Kayleigh: Just based on how much of a joke people already treat these kind of apps, they aren’t the primary medium you should use to find a true, committed relationship. They’re based off of materialistic, narcissistic judgment calls, which is no way to establish a relationship. You never really know and there are no standards that users are held to, so there’s no guarantee that the information you’re receiving about the other person is at all accurate. Maybe if you’re not looking for a serious relationship at all, but even then they can be dangerous if you know nothing about the person going into meeting them and have no verification of the person that they are.

Jenni: Mobile dating apps like a Grindr and Tinder are very different than online dating. Online dating is a much more thorough process, which filters people through their interests, religions, and many other categories. Grindr and Tinder are quick and easy ways of meeting people and it is fairly shallow. You choose a person you are interested in based off of a picture and location and not much else. Because it is so easy to use and so easily accessible, the majority of people on these apps are not seriously looking for a match. And that is the problem in a nutshell; these applications do not introduce you to quality, long-term matches. It is for people looking to hook up and have fun. There is nothing wrong with that, but if you are seriously looking for love, this might not be the best avenue to take.

 

 

 

 

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Lori Zaslow and Jennifer Zucher

By Lori Zaslow and Jennifer Zucher

If you’re looking for ways to spice up yourlove life, why not use what’s already available to you? Take advantage of your five senses – taste, sight, hearing, touch and smell – and get the most out of yourrelationship.

Taste: Make dinner together. If one of you is more Chef Boyardee than Julia Child, you can still keep your spouse company – and perhaps even get a good laugh out of your culinary mishaps.

 

Related Link: Date Idea: Expand Your Tastes

Sight: Plan a regular date night. A romantic outing is something you can both look forward to. Plus, it’s a way to transport yourselves back to when you first met. Be spontaneous too. Every once in a while, do something together in the spur of the moment. Breaking away from your routine adds excitement to your relationship, and the experience, whether it’s a surprise day trip or just an impromptu picnic in the backyard, it will bring the two of you closer together.

Hearing: Always talk or text at some point during the day. Whenever you can, take a few minutes out of your busy schedule to say hello to your significant other. Even a text that says something like “hope you’re having a good day” shows that you’re thinking of him. Most people spend more time at work than at home, so it’s important to stay connected to your loved ones.

Touch: Go for a walk, either a hike on a nearby trail or a stroll down a city street. The dynamic scenery may inspire a philosophical conversation about your plans for the future, or you may feel content to just enjoy the view as you walk hand-in-hand. Getting in touch with both your surroundings and each other will reignite any spark that’s been missing.

Related Link: The Most Health-Conscious Celebrity Couples

Smell: Make putting on your favorite scentpart of your morning routine, like brushing your teeth and washing your face. You want to be remembered and thought of throughout the day, so always make sure you smell your best. Remember that oils last longer than perfumes and can even be worn with perfume to enhance your own scent and allure. The power of smell is seductive.

To ignite your sense of smell, check out the new love oil created by Project Soulmate matchmakers Lori Zaslow and Jennifer Zucher. grav.i.tate is the perfect aphrodisiac to spice up your love life, whether first thing in the morning or for a sexier vibe in the evening.

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Money Talk in Relationships: How to Avoid Conflict

2013-07-17 Money Talk post

It is no secret that money is an awkward subject to discuss with a partner. In fact it is the number one thing that couples argue about. So how does a couple avoid this uncomfortable conversation? They key is communication. It is vital for both partners to have a complete understanding of the duo’s financial situation. This is especially key when it comes to marriage which usually means shared accounts. You must know your partners spending habits as well as financial history. Knowing the truth about your partner’s finances will help to avoid many major financial conflicts. And like your partner, you must also disclose your own financial history. Secondly it is important to discuss budgets with your partner. Spending on something big that is not agreed upon feels like stealing. Money is the biggest source of conflict in relationships; so avoid this argument by being financially responsible and knowledgeable about you and your partner’s financial capabilities.

However, dating and marriage are two completely different situations. When it comes to dating, I am all about chivalry. The man should go into a date expecting to pay for the woman. If the guy is in a tight financial situation, then be creative and pick an inexpensive date. With that being said, the woman should occasionally offer and insist to pay. This is especially important when you are consistently dating a person because let’s be honest, dating does get expensive. The girl does not want to appear cheap or as if she is using the guy. This will help show her own financial responsibility and interest in this guy.

Money is a touchy subject, but it doesn’t need to be. Communicate with your partner and be honest about your financial capabilities. Avoiding financial arguments will guarantee a more successful relationship.

by Jenni Jacobs

 

 

 

 

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Online Dating Profiles: First Impression Is Key

Online Dating

A good dating profile is just as important as a good resume. It is obvious to employers when an aspiring employee has put time and effort into their resume and it is just as obvious when this person throws their resume together in twenty minutes. This is this case with most things in life. When something is truly important, effort is key. And online dating profiles are no exception to this.

A detailed online profile is key in attracting the right type of match. Like a resume, it is your first impression. A person needs to be able to convey who they are through these profiles. Therefore time and care must be put into creating a personal profile. Don’t waste your time or money with a lousy first impression.

Good profiles lead to good responses. In a world where 8 in 10 people have tried online dating, the pool of potential matches is ever increasing. There is no longer a stigma to online dating. People are proud to admit that they met their match online. And this positivity encourages even more involvement. But it has become clear that the most successful online daters are those who care about their profiles and treat this medium as a real way to meet a match.

by Jenni Jacobs

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Today Show Segment: Love and Relationships

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On Friday, the Today Show featured our own Lori Zaslow in a segment on relationship advice. Watch the clip here:

http://www.today.com/video/today/52399683/#52399683

Then check out Lori’s extended answers to a couple different questions. Intern Kayleigh Hentges weighs in on the same questions following Lori. Hope everyone had a great Fourth of July and weekend!

Q:I am a single (never married/no kids) forty year old lady! Is it possible to be in the wrong city for love?

Kayleigh: I do think in New York it’s a lot more hectic and a different scene for finding other people looking for relationships, but it’s all about putting yourself out there and exploring new posibilities. There are a ridiculous amount of spots in New York, and it’s easy to stick with areas you’re comfortable with, but you can find new types of people in completely random spots. Keeping an open mind is essential too- if your qualifications for a potential partner are too rigid and specific, you could miss out on the love of your life.

Q: Why stay in touch with an ex wasting energy there when a new love relationship is possible?

Lori: By hanging on to an ex you aren’t giving your ALL to a new potential relationship. You are only giving a part of yourself.   Be authentic – and move on.  Yes it can feel lonely at times but there is a reason an ex is an ex.  Usually it isn’t about your ex it is just the fear of being alone!  As they say close one door and a new one will open, hence if you don’t close the door, new love won’t enter.  You must first get your ex out from between your legs in order to get him out heart and off your mind!!

Kayleigh:  It’s going to be hard to let go of an ex if you didn’t have a miserable relationship, especially if you’ve dated for a significant amount of time. You don’t really know how to go about the daily routine and feel like you don’t have that one person you used to share everything with. It really isn’t fair or possible to truly commit yourself to someone new and move on though if you don’t cut off constant contact with your ex at least for a while right after you break up. It’s scary re-entering the dating world, but you’re only going to find success in dating again if you allow yourself a clean slate.

Q: We constantly seem to argue over this same thing.He says he is tired all the time, and I want quality family time-what should we do?

Lori: Comprise; don’t argue!  Respect his needs and in turn he will respect yours.  Make family plans in advance giving him time to have down town.  Come up with “family time” that doesn’t involve too much energy.  Going old school always works- playing board games, renting a movie and eating popcorn, or cooking dinner and dessert are relaxing and fun!!  “Quality time” to you and him maybe 2 different things.  Learn to accept what he likes and he hopefully  will explore things you like!  Get  out of your comfort zone!!

Kayleigh: To this day I remember a high school teacher gave me advice long before I was even in love, telling us that her 40 year marriage had worked because of a simple practice that seems obvious but we often forget can work wonders. She said “We’re simply always placing the other before ourselves. If we’re both doing that, you’ll always be happy.” It’s a lot like compromise. It’s easy to get caught up arguing about the same things over and over but if you get hung up on issues rather than finding a way to balance out the situation it will only cause frustration and fatigue in your relationship.

 

 

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How To Be The Best Wingman/Woman For Your Friends

Relationships

Different personalities react certain ways in certain situations. As a friend, if  you are trying to help a good girlfriend or your best “bro” get a foot in the door with someone they see out that becomes of interest, then there are certain steps that you have to take. It seems that many people don’t know how to be a good wingman, they either scare the person of interest away, or they end up with them, which is why we are here to help you and your friends out!

The first step that everyone has to go by is being one hundred percent committed. Agreeing to be the wingman is sacrificing attention towards you. The focus must be on the friend you are trying to set up. Now this does not mean you can’t talk to anyone, the easiest way to help a friend out is to go for people in pairs of two. Simply walking up to someone at a bar or a table where it is obvious that a pair of girls or guys are looking around for company. Judgment is a key factor in the success of being a good wingman. For girls it is usually easier than for guys and here is why. If you are trying to set up a fellow girlfriend, there are three musts.

1.) Dress to impress. This means flattering but not slutty, a cute black skirt and comfortable top that must match a sexy pair of pumps or heels.

2.) Location. You have to make yourself visible. Request a table near the front and near the bar.

3.) Be approachable. You have to show that you are interested. Flirting without being suggestive. Eye contact and a simple smile can go a long way. For men it is harder but definitely can be successful if you follow the basic rules.

1.) Don’t be too cocky. Confidence is definitely key, but there is a line that can be crossed super easily. When approaching always introduce your friend before yourself. Ask questions that matter including where they are from, why they are where they are, and how they like what they’re doing. Eye contact is a must while talking and asking questions you have to be engaged.

2.) Never do all of the talking. Ask questions that they have to answer in full, not yes/no questions

3.) Be chivalrous but not pushy. Offer a drink but in a polite manner. Women can be turned off if you assume that you are the only outlet to them getting a cocktail. Ask what their favorite kind of beverage is, offer politely, and if they say no respond with something flirty and that might be enough for them to let their guard down .With these steps in mind always try to keep the conversation flowing, and if it doesn’t work move on to the next. There is no reason to force anything the first time meeting people. When introducing your friend make sure you get good vibes from them. If you can tell that they aren’t comfortable take that as a sign that they aren’t interested. It is obvious with people that you are close to if they are feeling it or if there is just nothing there. An absolute must when trying to be a good wingman is making your friend look good. Do not be super obvious that you are trying to do so, just pull in compliments and add in accomplishments. It not only helps you make them look good but it can be a really good conversation continuer or even a topic starter. If the night carries on, conversation flows, and you can tell that there is even the slightest bit of interest or connection then you need to push your friend to get a number.

-Nick Wright

 

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Use Your Five Senses To Spice Up Your Lovelife

By Lori Zaslow and Jennifer Zucher

If you’re looking for ways to spice up your love life, why not use what’s already available to you? Take advantage of your five senses – taste, sight, hearing, touch and smell – and get the most out of your relationship.

Taste: Make dinner together. If one of you is more Chef Boyardee than Julia Child, you can still keep your spouse company – and perhaps even get a good laugh out of your culinary mishaps.

Related Link: Date Idea: Expand Your Tastes

Sight: Plan a regular date night. A romantic outing is something you can both look forward to. Plus, it’s a way to transport yourselves back to when you first met. Be spontaneous too. Every once in a while, do something together in the spur of the moment. Breaking away from your routine adds excitement to your relationship, and the experience, whether it’s a surprise day trip or just an impromptu picnic in the backyard, it will bring the two of you closer together.

Hearing: Always talk or text at some point during the day. Whenever you can, take a few minutes out of your busy schedule to say hello to your significant other. Even a text that says something like “hope you’re having a good day” shows that you’re thinking of him. Most people spend more time at work than at home, so it’s important to stay connected to your loved ones.

Touch: Go for a walk, either a hike on a nearby trail or a stroll down a city street. The dynamic scenery may inspire a philosophical conversation about your plans for the future, or you may feel content to just enjoy the view as you walk hand-in-hand. Getting in touch with both your surroundings and each other will reignite any spark that’s been missing.

Related Link: The Most Health-Conscious Celebrity Couples

Smell: Make putting on your favorite scent part of your morning routine, like brushing your teeth and washing your face. You want to be remembered and thought of throughout the day, so always make sure you smell your best. Remember that oils last longer than perfumes and can even be worn with perfume to enhance your own scent and allure. The power of smell is seductive.

To ignite your sense of smell, check out the new love oil created by Project Soulmate matchmakers Lori Zaslow and Jennifer Zucher. grav.i.tate is the perfect aphrodisiac to spice up your love life, whether first thing in the morning or for a sexier vibe in the evening.  http://www.gravitateoil.com/short.php

Top 3 Mistakes Men Make On The First Date

Celebuzz featured Lori Zaslow of Project Soulmate back in 2012, discussing mistakes men make on their first date which can prevent them from finding “the one”.
(see the original article here)

Lori Zaslow believes that love is as essential to living as air. On Bravo’s reality series, Love Broker, the matchmaker helped men understand how to make their best first impression in order to snag that all-important love match.

“They definitely improve,” Zaslow tells Celebuzz of her clients who listen to her advice. “If they took the skills and the feedback and were able to implement it, even if it wasn’t like sparks everywhere, at least they knew maybe how to act a little more present or put their best foot forward or smell better or whatever the situation was, and they took the advice.”

Of course, before love can happen, men have to get the all-important second date. Zaslow clues Celebuzz’s readers in on the three biggest mistakes men make on first dates – take a look at her list below.

1. Not being present. “They’re on their Blackberry, or they’re thinking about work, or thinking about a past relationship, rather than just being in the moment,” Zaslow explains.

2. Giving up too soon. “Men really do work outside in and they’re much more visual creatures, which is fine and fair,” she points out. “But I think sometimes, they don’t give a second chance like a woman would. They cut it off right then and there. And sometimes I see with my clients, the minute the attraction’s not there, they can’t give that kindness and positive energy to the date.”

3. Giving in to fear of rejection. “[Men are] so much more afraid of rejection that they don’t always respond with their emotions,” the Project Soulmate co-founder tells us. “So, they might not let a girl back. For instance, right now, I have a client that’s like, ‘You know what, I emailed her Sunday and I waited until Wednesday and texted her.’ Why would you wait? That’s three or four days, another guy’s going to get right in there and that’s it, she’s off the market.”

Project Soulmate: Long Term Relationship Tips

Two important tips for improving your long term relationship with your partner.

Tip 1: Let there be space in your togetherness.

Tip 2: Disconnect with your partner if you want to connect. (And we mean disconnect the electronics!)

See the original article on LOVEPOST here.

Flutes in hands

Improve Your Long Term Relationship

One tenet to live by: give one another space–it’s important to honor your partner’s needs. Sometimes when someone gets home from work, they need 10 minutes to relax. The second they walk in the door andthey don’t want to answer questions like, “Did you pay the phone bill?” or “We need to send your Mom the thank you card today!” By giving them that 10 minutes, they will be more responsive and engaged as the night goes on. It is also important to remember all of the little things. Once you and your partner are comfortable with each other, that doesn’t mean you get out of dressing nice, doing your hair and expressing your feelings on a regular basis. Keeping a relationship thriving in a positive way is paying attention to details and allowing the relationship to continuously flourish.

(Dis) Connect with Your Partner

One of the most important ways to connect with your partner is to turn off all electronics. Phones, computers, iPads and other electronic devices can put up a barrier between you and your partner. By putting them away, this barrier comes down and a face to face connection is automatically made. Try and have a date night every week, just the two of you. Treat yourselves to alone time together and do something fun! Go for a walk, try something new like ice skating, or play a game of ping pong! You can exercise together by taking a bike ride or taking a spin class. Keep it light and exciting. Talk the night away about anything and everything, stay smiling and laughing and just enjoy yourselves and each others company!

An Interview: All About Project Soulmate with Arthur Kade

ArthurKade & Project Soulmate

Watch The Original Project Soulmate VIDEO Interview With Arthur Kade (Click here)

Clipped from the adorably sweet Arthur Kade:

Lori Zaslow and Jenn Zucher are two of the country’s best matchmakers, and after finishing up their first season of Bravo’s “LoveBroker”, two well known reality stars. With their matchmaking business “Project Soulmate”, they have established themselves as NYC’s elite matchmaking combo, reliable and edgy TV Personalities that appear on various TV Shows, and as they perfectly put it, their mission is “to deliver high quality, meaningful matches that have a genuine potential for love. Whether this is your first real romance or a second chance at love, Project Soulmate is passionate to help you meet your other half.”

Here “The King Of Kamelot” sits down with the awesome and extremely funny Lori Zaslow and Jenn Zucher of Project Soulmate and Bravo’s “LoveBroker” in NYC to talk about how they have become one of the country’s leading matchmaking businesses, what the experience on their first season of Bravo was like, how they met and started working together, who they would hook me up with, and what lies ahead. I have to say that I LOVED these two, and can’t wait to see them on TV again soon!!