Project Soulmate: Long Term Relationship Tips

Two important tips for improving your long term relationship with your partner.

Tip 1: Let there be space in your togetherness.

Tip 2: Disconnect with your partner if you want to connect. (And we mean disconnect the electronics!)

See the original article on LOVEPOST here.

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Improve Your Long Term Relationship

One tenet to live by: give one another space–it’s important to honor your partner’s needs. Sometimes when someone gets home from work, they need 10 minutes to relax. The second they walk in the door andthey don’t want to answer questions like, “Did you pay the phone bill?” or “We need to send your Mom the thank you card today!” By giving them that 10 minutes, they will be more responsive and engaged as the night goes on. It is also important to remember all of the little things. Once you and your partner are comfortable with each other, that doesn’t mean you get out of dressing nice, doing your hair and expressing your feelings on a regular basis. Keeping a relationship thriving in a positive way is paying attention to details and allowing the relationship to continuously flourish.

(Dis) Connect with Your Partner

One of the most important ways to connect with your partner is to turn off all electronics. Phones, computers, iPads and other electronic devices can put up a barrier between you and your partner. By putting them away, this barrier comes down and a face to face connection is automatically made. Try and have a date night every week, just the two of you. Treat yourselves to alone time together and do something fun! Go for a walk, try something new like ice skating, or play a game of ping pong! You can exercise together by taking a bike ride or taking a spin class. Keep it light and exciting. Talk the night away about anything and everything, stay smiling and laughing and just enjoy yourselves and each others company!

An Interview: All About Project Soulmate with Arthur Kade

ArthurKade & Project Soulmate

Watch The Original Project Soulmate VIDEO Interview With Arthur Kade (Click here)

Clipped from the adorably sweet Arthur Kade:

Lori Zaslow and Jenn Zucher are two of the country’s best matchmakers, and after finishing up their first season of Bravo’s “LoveBroker”, two well known reality stars. With their matchmaking business “Project Soulmate”, they have established themselves as NYC’s elite matchmaking combo, reliable and edgy TV Personalities that appear on various TV Shows, and as they perfectly put it, their mission is “to deliver high quality, meaningful matches that have a genuine potential for love. Whether this is your first real romance or a second chance at love, Project Soulmate is passionate to help you meet your other half.”

Here “The King Of Kamelot” sits down with the awesome and extremely funny Lori Zaslow and Jenn Zucher of Project Soulmate and Bravo’s “LoveBroker” in NYC to talk about how they have become one of the country’s leading matchmaking businesses, what the experience on their first season of Bravo was like, how they met and started working together, who they would hook me up with, and what lies ahead. I have to say that I LOVED these two, and can’t wait to see them on TV again soon!!

Do Couples Who Workout Together… Work Out?

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Originally written for the Dasha Wellness NYC blog October 11, 2012

Fitness couples. You know ’em.  The hot couple working out together at the gym, prepping for a marathon in Central Park, or going mountain climbing or hiking as their weekend activity. However, sometimes these “fitness couples” get a bad rap. Why is this? Maybe it makes everyone else bitter/jealous that more often than not we spend time eating, having cocktails, and sitting on the couch with our significant other and secretly wishing we were more active together? I’d say that whatever a couple likes to do together is a good thing. Outsiders should MYOB :).

Whether or not a couple works out together really depends on the couple- there is no need to keep this aspect of life separate! If fitness is something that you both enjoy, then of course, do it together! One of my favorite ways to spend time with my husband is when I roller blade and he runs! However, when giving advice to someone planning a first date, I never suggest planning anything too active or outdoorsy. It is way too much pressure on daters to prove themselves right off the bat! A first date should be relaxed where the couple can make eye contact.

After couples have been dating for a while, a situation that can cause the relationship to run into trouble is when one person pressures the other to work out or tone up. Clearly fitness is important for good health, but I think pressure of any kind isn’t a good thing. A person will become resentful, and chances are, your request will backfire. Everyone is the boss of his or her own body, so don’t project your insecurity onto your partner. However, if your partner is complaining about wanting to tone up or get in shape, then by all means offer ideas!

Until next time,

xoxo Lori Zaslow
Matchmaker & Co-Founder
Project Soulmate

5 Ways To Spot Your Soulmate

5 Ways to Know You’ve Met Your Soulmate, According to Bravo’s Love Broker: Lori Zaslow

by Anna Moeslein, Glamour.com
Assistant editor and entertainment writer. University of Missouri grad. Will listen to any song and watch any TV show, movie, or cute puppy video at least once (but probably twice). Eats ice cream or fro-yo daily⿿extra points if it has coconut.
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So, how do you know if he’s “the one” or not? That’s something only you can truly tell, but there are a few sure-fire signs that you’ve met your soulmate. We asked relationship expert Lori Zaslow, star of Bravo’s Love Broker (returning TONIGHT, July 24 at 10/9c) and co-founder of matchmaking service Project Soulmate, for her tips on finding success in love.

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1. Consistency from the other person.

I think we’re all looking for that–someone who is giving you consistency and making you a top priority. To me, lasting love is your “soulmate.” It’s healthy. It’s normal. It’s good. You can’t know right away! It takes time to know someone’s moods. I don’t want to put my stamp on something that anyone would think is instant. At Project Soulmate, when someone is on the fence about a person they just met, we always encourage a second date. You just never know! That person could be your soulmate, and you just blew him off because there was no absolute magic right away.

2. Someone who is genuinely concerned.

He is genuinely concerned about you and asks ‘How was your day? How are you? How are you feeling?’ Everything is not one-sided. The person can sense your needs and wants more. You might not need to use words. Of course, in life we do need to use words to articulate, but he might have a stronger vibe if he’s your soulmate. It’s as if he said, “I knew you were feeling that today.”
3. The person is your best friend as much as he is your lover.

The attraction is there, but it’s balanced by a friendship. Without the friendship, the relationship will never sustain. So if it’s always hot and always about sexual relations–when it’s too much of anything–it’s not lasting. There’s a mutual love and respect when someone is your soulmate. That should be first of everything. When you’ve met your soulmate, you’re both giving 150 percent. If you’re each giving together, it’s 300 percent.

4. Your intuition plays a role.

It’s someone that your intuition is constantly reminding you that this is quality, this is different, and this is someone special. It’s someone that you want to make your top priority, and you want to give your all to, and someone you desire in a healthy way. The feeling of your heart falling every time you see him, every single time, waiting for the text. It’s the person that you think “Oh, this could be it!” It could feel like a different connection than you’ve ever felt. Sometimes you meet someone, and you’re like ‘I swear I know you from somewhere,’ or you feel an instant comfort. You could feel more comfortable with a guy you know three months than someone you were with for five years. It happens all the time. So when I use the word soulmate, I’m not saying it loosely, because there is definitely magic in that word.
5. The person listens to what you say and actually acts upon it.

When you love someone and care about someone, you want to be better for yourself, but also for that person. When you’re going to have a future with someone, the person’s health becomes your health. Your partner takes what you say with love. Words and actions should be one in the same, always. You don’t only say ‘I love you’ and expect him to know it. No, you show someone. Anything you do not protect, you lose. Go out of your way when it’s someone’s birthday or when someone got a promotion. Be there when he needs you to hold his hand. Show someone you love them, take care of him, protect him. Your soulmate is going to give his all all of the time. When your boyfriend travels, he’s going to let you know he cares. Through thick and thin, someone is going to love you whether you have makeup on or you don’t. Because money comes and goes, friends come and go, life comes and goes.

So, tell us! Do you think you’ve met your soulmate? What are some of your signs for knowing you’re with “the one?”