Dunkin vs. Starbucks: What Does Your Taste in Coffee Say About Your Taste in Guys?

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Dunkin’ or Starbucks? The long-standing debate of who makes the better coffee could also say a lot about your taste in men.

Dunkin’ Fanatics:

If your pick is Dunkin, you are into the “All-American” guy. You like a hard-working, reliable, and manly man. You appreciate someone that knows what they want, but is laid back at the same time. You like a guy who gets things done and who is there for you when you need them.

Starbucks Lovers:

If you’re a Starbucks lover you like your men well- put together and sophisticated. Generally, you are into the preppy type that lives a fast-paced life style. Your guy is usually sleek and charming or geek-chic and intelligent.

Appearance:

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Residence:

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Pets:

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Friends:

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You:

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By: Nicole Hartley

First Date Do’s & Dont’s

Embarking on a first date can be can be scary sometimes, regardless of if it’s a blind date or one that’s been set up by relationship experts. It can mean something as small as grabbing drinks or as extensive as a five course meal. Whatever the date may be, following these steps are a surefire way to make a great first impression.

 

Do:

Listen. As my grandfather used to say, “you’ve got 2 ears and one mouth for a reason”. This applies to everything in life, especially first dates. People love to talk about themselves and asking the right questions can really open a person up and start a great conversation. No one wants to be interrupted or feel like that can’t get a word in. Relationships are a two way street, give and take. The same goes for conversation.

Put your phone away. Whether you are texting, calling, or simply checking your phone for the time, you’ll make your date feel unimportant. So instead, wear a watch to keep track of time and let your friends know that you can’t be reached during those couple of hours so you wont be tempted to answer.

Wear something comfortable. And no, this does not mean jeans and a t-shirt. Make sure that the outfit you pick out is one that you’ve tested out before. Wearing 6 inch heels that make it impossible to walk are probably not the best choice.

Get excited. It’s not everyday that you get to dress up a bit, take advantage. When you see them, make sure to smile so they know you are happy to be there. Nothing makes a man feel great like a beautiful woman who is interested in him.

Bring your manners. Hopefully they’ll also bring theirs and open doors for you. Please and thank you’s can go a long way in life.

 

Don’t:

Assume that they are buying. Never forget your wallet at home. Even if they do pick up the tab (and in my opinion they should) not bringing a wallet could leave a bad impression. Also, if they want to split the bill and you have no money, things could get awkward, fast.

Get drunk. Sloppy first dates rarely lead to second ones. Know your limits so that you don’t end up drunk. Drinks are fun to have so you loosen up a bit, just don’t come unraveled.

Ask about exes. The reason you are on a date is to get know someone new, not to talk about your past. Exes can bring up bad experiences and can leave your date thinking that you are stuck in the past.

 

Above all, be yourself. Confidence is the most attractive quality a woman (or man) can possess.

BY: LILY DOERFLER

Dating Clichés That Are Not Actually Cliché

Clichés are the building blocks of our great-love expectations. In Pretty Woman when, Julia Roberts’ knight-in-shining armor is actually a business tycoon in a white stretch limo with roses in his hand (close enough). Or in The Notebook, when Ryan Gosling wrote letters to his love every day for a year to prove his devotion. Yes, these acts of true love are extreme and unrealistic, but not in their entirety…

We are told that clichés are silly and don’t mean a thing, well here at Project Soulmate, the Best Matchmaking Service in New York City, we disagree. Let’s boil these scenarios down to the aspects that should be considered romantic, not silly in the dating world.

Every woman loves flowers. That is a fact. If she says she doesn’t, then she is lying because even if there is a slight chance that she actually doesn’t like flowers, the gesture speaks for itself in a big way. When a man brings a woman flowers it shows her that he was thinking of her and went the extra mile just to make his woman smile a little more. Buying flowers does not have to be such an expensive ordeal either! There are few things more romantic than a single red rose.

Now, the white stretch limo; this is a bit of a stretch… but the point is not lost. The idea of planning a little in advance and showing the extra effort goes a long way. It does not have to be a limo, but making a reservation at a nice restaurant or buying surprise tickets to your significant others favorite show, movie, or sports team is unparalleled when it comes to a loving gesture. Simply showing that you made an effort will create those butterflies that we all search for.

And finally, the 365 love letters from Ryan Gosling. Again, the emphasis is on the point. Writing little notes to each other is very cute and endearing. If you have to leave for work before your partner gets up, leave a little note by the coffee pot that you set up for them, saying ‘have a great day! I love you’ or ‘Hope this coffee brightens up your day like you brighten up mine’. Or leaving a little note in the bathroom telling your partner how beautiful or handsome they look, even if you didn’t get to see them. These little notes are precious memories that can be saved in the drawers of your nightstands or in a scrapbook, and will bring you both happiness and giggles when you look back at them in the future.

I know we are all busy, especially in a city like New York, but do not let that stop you from taking the little steps that make a huge difference. Coming from the relationship experts, clichés are the way a happy, healthy and thriving relationship.

By: Alexia Chicles

The Relationship Guide: He’s Just Not that Into You

The Relationship Guide: He’s Just Not that Into You

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If you haven’t seen the movie He’s Just Not That Into You, we have all heard the daunting phrase.

The start of relationships can be exciting, nerve-wracking and at times confusing. At first, everything seems to be going really well. Maybe you met him on a night out with your girlfriends and he asked for your number and instantly you felt like “YES! He’s into me!” After a few days and no call, you start to wonder what’s going on. Is he busy? Did he lose my number? Did his phone accidently fall into a toilet? Then the self-doubt hits you. “Maybe it’s me. Is he not into me?”

Despite the optimism given by your friends and family, Here’s how you know that he’s not into you:

  1. He doesn’t call/text you first
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    This is relationship 101. If he is never the first one to text or call you, he’s not into it. Sure, it’s okay to text him first every once in a while, but if he’s truly interested he will reciprocate your feelings.
  2. If he does text you, it’s past 11 p.m.
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    Let’s face it, if he does bother to text you, but it’s not until after 11 p.m. you are 100% a booty call. We’ve all been there whether we like to admit it or not, but recognizing the situation can sometimes be harder than you think. If this is something that you want, go for it. However, if you are expecting to hopefully date this person down the road, he’s no good and he’s certainly no good for you because he’s not interested in forming a relationship off of late night hookups. Drop him like a hot potato because all he’s interested in is getting his and you deserve to find something and someone more worth your while. Don’t settle for being his late night hookup especially if you want more!
  3. Every date you have involves drinking:
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    Drinking and dating often go hand in hand, but if your guy is only taking you to the local bars when he sees you this is a big red flag. A guy that is truly into a girl wants to take them to dinners, movies, and other fun date nights. If he is only taking you to go get drinks he doesn’t take the relationship seriously. He may just be looking for a good time, but you can count him out for the long haul.
  4. They don’t want to introduce you to their friends or family
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    Friends and family are a huge aspect to dating and getting to know your significant other. If he is hesitant or just outright doesn’t want to introduce you to his friends or family, then he’s either got something going on personally or yep, you guessed it: he’s just not that into you. If he doesn’t want to introduce you to the most important people in his life, it is a huge telling of the fact that maybe you aren’t one of those “important” people in his life. So, my best advice is if you have been dating someone for a while and haven’t met at least a couple of his friends, it’s time to either have a talk or let the relationship go.
  5. They only compliment you on your physical attributes
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    This is a big one. If all the guy you’re interested in can do is talk about how hot he thinks you are or what a “killer body” you have, then he clearly both does not know enough about you and quite possibly does not care to know. Often times if the only compliments he can give are about your appearance then conversation probably flat-lines more often than not. What are you supposed to talk about with someone that can’t come up with a compliment better than “wow, I think you’re really pretty”? Drop the shallow guy and go get yourself someone that appreciates you for you and all that you have to offer in a relationship.
  6. “If he acts like he doesn’t give a sh*t, he genuinely doesn’t give a sh*t”
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    Thank you, He’s Just Not That Into You for this amazing line. There is nothing more true than the fact that guys just do not think about things the same way girls do. They do not over-analyze, they do not sit by the phone and wait for your phone call, and they certainly do not waste their time on someone they aren’t interested in. So, if he acts like he doesn’t care that much, I promise you he doesn’t. Plain and simple.images-4

Identifying if he’s into you is probably the hardest part because the hopefulness inside of us always wants to be optimistic that things will work out. However, in most cases, it just is the way it is. Either he’s into you or he’s not, there usually isn’t an in-between. So, let go of the guys that just can’t get it together to like you for you because chances are they aren’t the ones for you anyway. Don’t waste your time because it’s better spent on someone that will show you their interest off the bat and treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

By: Nicole Hartley